Strengthen your relationship during this new year
December 28th, 2012
We’re very quickly dashing through this holiday season – soon New Year’s Day will be upon us. After all the countdowns, the champagne popping, the kissing, and the Auld Lange Synes we get a fresh start on a brand new year. We get to try it all over again with (hopefully) better results.
This is the time for making resolutions – some people love them, some people hate them, very few people ever follow through on them. They’re made with the best intentions to be better people, to break bad habits and start good ones. I’m terrible at keeping my resolutions, so for years I stopped making them entirely. But this year I’ve got a list – things to do to strengthen my relationship. Feel free to borrow any of these for yourself.
· Be present - I listen to my husband, I know he’s talking, but I find myself constantly saying, “what did you say?” and “can you repeat that last bit?” I need to stop getting so easily distracted (by the TV, the internet, the children, the phone, the pets) and hear what he is saying to me.
· Kiss more – We’ve decided to rename my 4 year old Wedge. Whenever my hub and I get close to one another to kiss or hug our 4 year old pushes herself in between us. In spite of this, those kisses are a great way to connect during a busy day or week. And they’re a great way to recharge.
· Have a weekly date. Schedule it if necessary. Dinner and a movie would be great, but a quiet walk or a snuggle on the couch after the kids have gone to bed would be just as good. This time is for flirting, making out, laughing and being a couple. Try to leave the other junk behind.
· Try new things. Sexually, I mean. There are loads of great toys, books, props. Go shopping together or be adventurous and bring home a surprise. Talk about our fantasies and agree on things to try together.
Have a safe and happy New Year!