Sex and the 5 Senses
June 6th, 2013
Sex and the 5 senses
Remember the “ Five Senses” lessons you had in elementary school, with cotton balls and cinnamon sticks glued to pieces of paper? We’re talking about those same 5 senses, but all grown up. These 5 senses are mature and experienced – with a little more imagination. These 5 senses have sex.
Smell - Whether you realize it or not, you chose your significant other, in part, with your nose. Our noses will lead us in the direction of a good mate (typically someone with enough genetic differences from ourselves to give any children we may have an excellent immune system). Your love’s lingering scent on their pillow, their sweaty t-shirt after a day outside, the smell of their neck as you tuck in for a hug – these are all scents that are working to pull you together for a night of passion.
Taste – A meal can be so sensual that it is considered foreplay. Aphrodisiacs have been used for thousands of years to increase virility and subconsciously imply sex; most aphrodisiacs were chosen because their shape or color resembled genitalia (asparagus and oysters, for instance). Coincidentally, our lips, tongue and genitals all have the same neural receptors (Krause’s end bulbs) which make them ultrasensitive and highly charged. Kisses, nibbles and licks increase blood flow and excite the body.
See - Do you recall the early days of your relationship when you stared at each other, trying to memorize everything about them? We lose that after a period of time – we look at our partners, but stop seeing them. It’s time to see again – really see. Slowly strip the clothes from your SO, one layer at a time. Look at all the curves and angles of your lover’s body. See how their muscles move when they tilt their head or bend their leg. (Touching is encouraged!)
Hear - The sounds of your relationship are uniquely yours. His laugh, her whisper, the music you play for each other, the background noise of your moments together help to define the mood of your romance. Focus on the subtle sounds your partner makes – those quiet sighs and gasps are leading you in the right direction. That sexy talk is turning up the heat (and you might find the more explicit the language, the more intense the lovemaking).
Touch – Touching is pretty obvious with sex. Touches may start tender and intensify as the mood heats up. Touching is another great way to explore your love’s body. Don’t limit it to your fingers – consider bringing some toys into the bedroom for new kinds of touch. There are some amazing toys on the market that are designed to be used as a couple. Or bring your own toys in and find fun ways to use them together.
Make all your senses count the next time things heat up with you and your love.