Re-light the Spark
July 6th, 2012
Just because all the sparklers have burned down doesn’t mean the fireworks should end. Fourth of July is a great time to light a fire in the bedroom.
My husband and I recently wrote our own declaration – after 8 years of marriage, 2 kids, a lay-off, a struggling business, countless house projects, in-laws and the parade of other everyday stresses, we thought we should reclaim our relationship. So in the same vein as Lifetime Television’s “7 Days of Sex” my hub and I pledged to spend a week focusing on us.
We started by talking about the things we did well in our relationship (equality in the household chores, disciplining kids, talking through the stress) and the things we didn’t do well (PDA, setting aside the laptops to talk undistracted, cuddling). We figured out what we wanted to gain at the end of the week and we set out like Washington on the Delaware (determined – not cold, wet and surrounded by stinky men).
The result? Great sex. Really great sex. Fireworks andmarching bands kind of sex. Streamers and ticker-tape parades kind of sex. And not because of any new toys or a roomful of candles. It was because we spent every day wooing each other, listening to each other, talking to each other, so when we finally fell into bed next to one another we felt entirely connected – the heat was already there. No matches necessary.