December 4th, 2012
Some people would argue that holiday sex has the potential to backfire: we get so worked up by the romance of the season that we try to put high expectations into a sexy rendezvous and may end up causing ourselves more stress and disappointment. I say if you’re in the mood, take the chance. But here a few things to keep in mind:
1. Preparation is sexy. If you’re going out of town for the holidays make sure you bring the essentials: birth control, condoms, Masque, etc. Forget your toothpaste and you can borrow your grandmother’s.
2. Save your family issues for the therapist’s couch. So you had a heated debate with your overly-political Uncle George? Don’t assume that will translate into great, clothes-ripping passion. You’re angry. And your focus will not be on your partner, but on all the comebacks you should have said to your uncle over dinner. You’re better cooling off with a long walk through the snow than a roll in the hay.
3. Take some time for each other. Make sure you pencil in some alone time amongst all the holiday cheer. (Shopping for last-minute gifts or groceries does NOT count). Find the mistletoe and spend a few minutes underneath reconnecting.
4. Listen to your own needs. If all you want are a few minutes of human contact, sex could be very disappointing, and a snuggle in front of the fireplace might just suffice. Tell your partner what you want so you’re both on the same page and no feelings get hurt.
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